Being #2............

Mood: Ecstatic
Now Playing: "Boyfriend #2" -Pleasure P




I was at lunch with a group of friends recently and a sensitive subject came about in the discussion. The topic was about being number two in a relationship, or a mistress. Now anyone who has known me know that when I was younger being second was never an issue for me. Most of the friends that I had were the number ones, i was a bad friend i know. I lost alot of friendships on the way and regretted a lot of decisions I made as well. In my mind it was all about me.
Moving forward til now, my friend opens up and tells her story about being the other woman. She tells us in her candid version that she had been seeing this guy for about four months, and he told her from the start that he was in a rocky situation. She decided to befriend him and things escalated from that point on. Now her feelings are involved and she is not able to just walk away from the relationship. Within the conversation she really started to doubt herself and ask questions like,
"Is she cuter than me"
"What does she have that I don't have"

I had to stop her then, cause I hate when people do this. The fact of the matter is that it does not matter what you have or how cuter you are they have what it is that you want. Now i am not a fan of cheating, now that I am older. When I reflect on past relationships I was always the one that got cheated on. I understand stepping out, when a man or woman cheats on their mate its not that the grass is greener on the other side. I believe that the other person offer the cheater something that not being offered at home. Example:

#1 Me #2 Cheater #3 Sex
#1 ME #2 Cheater #3 Emotion
#1 Me #2 Cheater #3 Attention

I can boldly admit that when I found out what the basis was for their lust of the other person I had to re-evaluate myself.
Getting back to her, So I asked her what is that they do when they are together. She replied after thinking about the answer and said "sex". We all said "that's it". That was exactly what he was missing at home. It may not have been the act but maybe the excitement that you bring to the bedroom. At this point I believe she was very hurt, like anyone with feelings would be, but luckily she had someone who shares a similar situation as she does, ME!!!!!


BC Chandler